Get Out of the Way!

The last few days I've had the opportunity to focus on and discuss how people get in their own ways.  We all do it one way or the other, I do it all the time.  I tend to over-think a lot of things in life.  The main focus this week was how we get in our own ways when we are dealing with having any sort of interest in someone.

Our ward has had several conversations (both formal and informal) on the matter in both small and large groups and we all tend to come to the same conclusions...get to know people, if you're interested in getting to know them better ask them out, keep asking them out until one or both are no longer interested, if you're not interested in the other person and they are in you then you should tell them.  Signals don't work, use open communication.  Open communication can be scary, but it sure is a lot easier than hoping the other person figures it out and then reciprocates and then hopes you figure it out as well.  We all know it, so why do we keep doing it?

So this is how it usually happens...a girl likes a guy, so she tells her friends and roommates, but not the guy...you can't just tell the guy!  At the same time, she wants the guy to know that she likes him so she has to leave hints, but not too many, that would be telling the guy that she likes him and she can't let him figure that out because what if he doesn't like her?  So she does little things here and there and then backs off to see how he responds and then she freaks out because he's not doing anything, but at the same time, he is doing things but they're little things because he can't have her figure out that he likes her even though he does.  This goes on back and forth for awhile until everyone is frustrated and either they both abandon ship or some miracle occurs and they finally figure it out.

So why don't I take my own advice?  Easier said than done unless I were to get out of my own way.